The Pretty Uncomfortable Podcast
Welcome to The Pretty Uncomfortable Podcast, where my kink is life’s discomforts. In this podcast I will confront taboos and stigmas surrounding everything from sex, relationships, mental health, and everything in between. I’m Tera Vee, and as the host of The Pretty Uncomfortable Podcast my goal is to be your new safe word. As an adult content creator who can’t hide my own kind of weird, I’m here to show you that we ALL get uncomfortable at times. It’s time to push past the discomfort, talk about the stuff people are too scared or embarrassed to discuss, and realize that you are not alone. Ever. Join me for the discomfort!
Episodes
Monday Mar 27, 2023
Monday Mar 27, 2023
After years and years of feeling insecure about my bra size, I scheduled an appointment with a plastic surgeon. And just like that, I had new boobs. I could suddenly feel more confident and comfortable in my appearance.
But what happens if you aren't happy with the size of your penis? There is no easy solution, no quick fix. And so maybe you worry that you aren't enough. Maybe you are insecure with what you have hiding in your pants. You hear it everywhere; tv shows, movies, social media. Bigger is Better. Big Dick Energy.
But is big actually better? In this episode I discuss this popular question, my thoughts on both big and small, and if it truly matters. I share my personal experiences, my favorite sex position, and give some tips on how to work with what you've got, and grow your confidence.
Come join me in the conversation and let's see if being big is actually that big of a deal.
The Coital Alignment Technique | Positions If You Don't Have a Giant Penis
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Monday Mar 20, 2023
The B-Sides: A Partner’s Reaction to a Herpes Outbreak- Both Mine AND His
Monday Mar 20, 2023
Monday Mar 20, 2023
The B-Sides...where I take content from the cutting room floor of the previous episode to share in a mini-episode.
Episode 13, The B-Sides:
The nerves of telling a new partner about your positive herpes status. The surprise of him waking up after a date and he has a coldsore. The worry that, after planning a sleepover date, you have to tell him that you are having an outbreak and therefore sex would not be an option.
In this mini-episode I share the story of one partner who consistently surprised me with his reactions to uncomfortable situations.
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Monday Mar 20, 2023
Monday Mar 20, 2023
You get coldsores. One pops up, and you get annoyed. Maybe you even vent about it to a friend or a coworker. And then it goes away. And you don't think about it again. You don't think it's a big deal. And you certainly don't think you need to tell a prospective sexual partner about the nuisance coldsores that you occasionally get.
Except those coldsores? They are just a socially acceptable name for *gasp* herpes. Yes, coldsores are the same thing as herpes. I know, I know. Sit down for a minute while you absorb that information if you're feeling a little shook. It's not your fault if you are misinformed...most likely, the sexual education failed you, just like it has failed so many others. And the media? It definitely hasn't helped any either.
HSV-1, or oral herpes, somehow managed to get the privilege of being able to hide behind the word coldsores. AND YET. They are herpes. Plain and simple. Even a very popular brand that has over-the-counter products to alleviate symptoms of coldsores has a website that stresses the fact that if you have coldsores you should be informing your partners....YET NEVER MENTIONS THE WORD HERPES. Not once.
Herpes is passed through skin to skin contact. Whether you have an active outbreak (sore) or not, you can still pass the virus. I know, I know...you're shook again, aren't you? It's ok, it's not your fault. Let me get you a tiny bit more shook...this means that if you get coldsores, even if you do not have an active sore, simply by kissing someone you can pass the virus to them. And that means kissing on the mouth, OR a little further south.
In this episode I discuss the importance of disclosing if you get coldsores to potential partners and the hopeful signs of seeing more celebrity figures being more open about discussing getting coldsores. This topic also inspired me to share a conversation I had with a partner that forever changed the way that I view disclosures and how they should be handled.
Join me in this important conversation regarding taking ownership over our sexual health, and how to never let anyone make us feel like our positive status is a burden.
Ella Dawson TedX Herpes Talk: A MUST WATCH!
Herpes articles:Sex with Herpes | Herpes Statistics | No, You Probably Have NOT Been Tested For it
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Tuesday Mar 14, 2023
The Art of The BJ: Giving It Shouldn’t Be So Hard- The Lowdown on Going Down
Tuesday Mar 14, 2023
Tuesday Mar 14, 2023
Ahhhhh, the blowjob. Men love it, and the givers? Well...for many, they'd rather go clean the baseboards than take part in this timeless sexual act.
From a former BJ-hater to a proud Throat Goat, I want to show you that BJs don't have to be, and SHOULDN'T be, a chore. I want you to WANT to give them just as much as your partner wants to receive them. Because honestly? Can you imagine if our partners acted completely disinterested, or even worse, grossed out, while trying to pleasure US? No thank you!
It can be an intimidating act, and sometimes it can feel as though our partners aren't being very patient with us. But don't worry! I schooled them in Pt. 1 of The Art of The BJ to be more aware of our feelings, and to give us some tender loving care while we are giving them some tender loving down there. P.S. I also told them that it should be a reciprocal act, so I expect you to keep them accountable- get YOURS too!
But it takes two to tango, right? In Pt. 2 of The Art of The BJ I discuss ways that we, as the givers, can build our confidence, how to beat the insecurities, and embrace all the awkward and messy moments. I will teach you how to perfect the most amazing, stellar, BLOW his mind technique. The technique to end all other techniques...
...Spoiler Alert: It's enthusiasm! Easy peasy, right? I bet you thought I was going to tell you to shove a banana down your throat. Fine, spoiler alert...I tell you to do that too. Join me in a conversation on gaining sexual confidence and getting pleasure from giving your partner pleasure.
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Monday Mar 13, 2023
Monday Mar 13, 2023
Ahhhhh, the blowjob. Man's best friend. The act that, for many men, kicked off not just their journey towards sex, but also something that has become one of the most expected sexual acts to receive.
The problem? Not everyone on the giving side of things has the same enthusiasm to give as the men do to receive. And I want to change that. I was once a partner that would avoid the BJ at all costs. You could not convince me that it could be a fun way to pleasure my partner. Nope. I would lace up my running shoes and run in the other direction, coming up with any excuse to get out of it.
Now? Your girl is a certified Throat Goat. I even have a membership card to the secret club. What changed? Honestly? I'm not quite sure. What I DO know is that I want to help the ones that have an aversion to giving blow jobs, the ones that are nervous, uncomfortable, maybe feeling a little insecure in their technique. Because pleasuring our partner shouldn't feel like a chore. And it shouldn't make us uncomfortable.
BUT THIS IS WHERE YOU, THE MEN, COME IN....I cannot take on this task on my own. I need your help. And that is why this episode is for YOU. In this episode I want you to listen to the perspective of the giver of the blow job. I want you to learn some things that you may have never taken into consideration before. There are things that YOU can do to make your partner feel more comfortable. Things that, if you do them, can make your partner want to sign up for membership to the Throat Goat club.
Guys...you truly have the power to increase the quality AND quantity of one of your most favorite things. Spoiler alert- pushing our heads down is NOT a technique that is going to work in your favor. So grab a pen and paper, get comfy, and come join me in discussing one of my most favorite things in the whole wide world of sex.
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Monday Mar 06, 2023
Living with Invisible Struggles: Hello Darkness, My Old Friend
Monday Mar 06, 2023
Monday Mar 06, 2023
*listen, if you don't see what I did there with the title, I'm not sure that we can be friends. Anyways, on to the episode.....
Hello, my name is Tera and I will pretend like everything is ok, even when I am drowning in the darkness. Because unless I LET you see it, my struggle is almost completely invisible.
This episode is the most raw that I have ever gotten with you. I discuss finding myself in a place where, for the first time in my life, I am unable to fully hide my struggles.
What do we do when we are suffering with a pain that is invisible, whether physical or emotional? How do we cope when internally we feel like we are drowning, but outwardly we are living a life behind a facade? It can be so hard when we are worried people won't believe us because, outwardly, we appear "fine." We walk through life smiling and laughing, waiting until we get home to privately crumble.
Join the conversation on overcoming the fear to ask for help, and why saying the scariest things can be the bravest thing we ever do.
***SUICIDE PREVENTION RESOURCES***Never be afraid to reach out for help- it's the bravest thing you will ever do...Suicide Hotline- CLICK HERESuicide Prevention Resources- CLICK HERE
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Monday Feb 27, 2023
Monday Feb 27, 2023
My naked body is all over the internet. Doing naked body things. The internet is a cruel place, so it would be a safe assumption that in all that nakedness, the exposure would become exceptionally damaging to my mental health.
My perspective on the topic may be unexpected; I am here to tell you that the world of porn, both watching it and being an active participant in it, has helped me to overcome so many insecurities by discovering just how different all of our bodies actually are.
In this episode I share my journey into the world of adult content creation and how my once sheltered mind opened up once I started to explore porn. Anatomy class seemed to leave out some important details...why did nobody tell me just how different all of our bodies actually are? This would have saved me years of staring at my body in the mirror thinking I was not normal.
Join in the conversation as I explore the unexpected positive effects the world of porn has had on my insecurities, contrasting the effects of a "safe" social media platform like Instagram. Turns out it's the safe space, the non-taboo space, that is a detriment to my mental health.
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Monday Feb 20, 2023
Monday Feb 20, 2023
You see a woman in high heels. It makes that little heart of yours go pitter patter. You realize you want to see MORE feet in heels. And before you know it, a kink is born.
But now, while your heart is going pitter patter, your brain is starting to question itself. Is this normal? Am I normal for liking this? Now your heart is starting to race for a different reason. Fear. Worry. Doubt.
In this conversation I challenge you to look inward, and decide if normal is even a good thing to strive for. Whether it's a kink, a quirk, or a hobby- we've all had that sudden fear that maybe that thing of ours is not normal. But so what? What is the worst thing that could happen if someone doesn't accept us for who we are? Join me as I explore this question, as well as share the impact it had on me when someone I loved told me that I was not normal.
Come join the conversation on the weight that our words can carry, and why I think a high heel kink is a superpower.
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Tuesday Feb 14, 2023
Tuesday Feb 14, 2023
Are you feeling nauseous as you scroll through social media during Valentine's Day and all that you are seeing is love, Love, LOVE? Are you feeling slightly bitter while you watch your co-worker receive a dozen roses?
Yet you also are independent and usually quite happy rocking your single status, so what's with these feelings?? Fear not! You are not betraying your independence, you're just being human. It's absolutely ok to enjoy being single but also crave someone to go grocery shopping with.
My therapist interrupted a single-girl pity party that I was throwing for myself with dating advice that has changed the way that I look at being single. I could have gotten you a box of chocolates, but that's so cliche for today. Instead, I'll share a therapy tidbit with you and hopefully it will help you in the same way that it did for me.
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Monday Feb 13, 2023
Butt Stuff: Your Key to the Backdoor- A Beginner’s Guide to Anal Play
Monday Feb 13, 2023
Monday Feb 13, 2023
You have one. I have one. All of our cute little bums hold the potential to have some amazing orgasms...but oof. That taboo, right? The shittiest part (sorry, I couldn't help myself) of anal play is the stigma and taboo attached to it.
Maybe you have been too nervous to discuss it with your partner. Maybe you have told yourself you will absolutely never try it, simply because of the attached taboo. Or maybe, like me, you had a horrible first experience and now you're not sure if you want to try again.
It can be easy to forget that you don't have to jump all the way in to still enjoy anal play. And with time, and communication if you are playing with a partner, you may be surprised to find something that gives you a whole new kind of pleasure.
In this episode I share my own personal feelings on anal play, as well as some pointers to make the whole experience be one that you will want to hopefully enjoy again and again!
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The best Anal Training Guide you will find:
Check out John Romaniello's Instagram highlights for his insanely popular Anal Training Guide. Your bum will thank you, I promise!
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This one's for all the men out there! Check this article out to learn all about the amazing prostate orgasm. Learn all about that amazing, magical button that you've got hiding in that sexy ass of yours, and ways to access a whole new level of pleasure.
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Meet Your New Safe Word
kink
/kiNgk/
noun
1. a clever unusual way of doing something.
Your discomfort is my kink. Let me be your safe word.
Not what you were expecting, right? Life itself is just one big kink. The problem is, people are too afraid to talk about the things that make them uncomfortable. That's something I have never had a problem with, because I tend to do things a bit differently.
I learned to approach my social media presence from a place of realness. I show my ugly. I show my mess. And when I do? I always get DMs from people that are in those same dark places, but are just too nervous to share it.
I want to take my journey and my experiences to show you that you are not alone. I want to show you the other side of the ugly. I want to become your new safe word.