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Monday Feb 06, 2023
Monday Feb 06, 2023
You're told you have herpes. It feels like your life is over. Will you ever have sex again? Will anyone ever want to date you if they know? Is your dating life completely OVER?
I'm here to tell you...ABSOFUCKINGLUTELY NOT. Your dating life does not need to suffer simply because you have an astonishingly common virus. I'm here to drop a big bomb on you....having herpes doesn't make you special. It doesn't make you unique. It makes you just like BILLIONS (according to WHO World Health Organization) of other people walking along with you on this planet.
After my diagnosis in 2018 I went through the rollercoaster of emotions- self-hatred, shame, and embarrassment. All I knew of herpes was what I had learned in sex-ed; which means I knew, well, NOTHING. I could only reference back to jokes I had heard, crude references from movies and sitcoms, and the Google images showcasing the absolute WORST of the worst case scenarios. So obviously, I thought I had a zombie vagina that everyone would run from.
That zombie vagina of mine? I'm here to tell you, it's in high demand. Herpes has absolutely not stopped me from having not just a thriving dating life, but a thriving SEX LIFE.
In this episode I share the evolution of my life with herpes- from my diagnosis and the shock of realizing it was apparently NOT a big deal at all, to learning how to navigate the treacherous world of dating while having a virus that most people are incredibly mis-informed about.
I have made a conscious decision with this episode to NOT take the educational route. I feel better equipped to share with you in the way that I do best- storytelling. If you would like further education and facts on the subject, I have included some helpful links below as well as links to some of my favorite Instagram accounts that have been absolutely invaluable to me through this journey.
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HAVING SEX WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS HERPES
This is probably one of my all time most favorite articles EVER, regarding herpes. If you read nothing else, this is the article to read!
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WHY THE CDC DOES NOT RECOMMEND SCREENING FOR HERPES
Most people are absolutely shocked to find out that herpes is NOT part of the standard STI testing panels. Most believe that they have been tested for everything, because they have been TOLD that they were tested for everything. But most likely, herpes was NOT a part of that test. Find out why in this article...the reason will probably shock you!
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Ella Dawson's Incredible TEDX Talk on Herpes-
STIs AREN'T A CONSEQUENCE, THEY'RE INEVITABLE
For anyone new to navigating a herpes diagnosis, consider this required listening material. It is a MUST!
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Instagram Accounts that I Adore:
Sexelducation run by Emily L. Depasse MSW Med
I love this page for the way that Emily presents the data in a way that is fun and easy to digest. This page has helped me SO much through my journey, helping to educate myself and to realize more and more that shame doesn't belong anywhere in the same room as my diagnosis.
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Positive Results
This page is no longer active, but don't let that deter you from going down the rabbit hole of all of the amazing posts that it offers. I learned soooo much from this page on how to disclose throughout my dating career. This page has truly been invaluable to me throughout the years. This is the page that has the meme that I use on my dating profiles- HSV+ AND I'M STILL FUCKING FABULOUS
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and then there is SAFE SLUT. In my opinion...the GOAT
This page gives me absolute LIFE. Her approach to a subject as stigmatized as herpes is one filled with humor and just absolute EMPOWERMENT. Gives. Me. LIFE.
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My DMs are always open to continue the conversation. Please always feel safe to come to me if you want to chat about herpes!
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Monday Jan 30, 2023
Monday Jan 30, 2023
"You're a slut."
Has anyone ever said that to you? Or have you said it to someone else?
I have been shamed for my sexual experiences, and as hard as it is to admit, I have also been the one doing the shaming.
Who gets to decide what a slut is? What number of sexual partners suddenly switches you from "acceptable" to slut? In this episode I discuss my own experiences with being shamed for my decision to make adult content, and how it makes me feel.
Newsflash- it makes me sad. But also? I don't let it stop me from continuing to live my life as I see fit.
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Monday Jan 23, 2023
Monday Jan 23, 2023
Let's explore the difference between not understanding or not liking something, versus creating judgement and shame towards a person.
Through my explorations and experiences in dating I have been able to evolve from being a person that was incredibly judgmental into someone that thoroughly enjoys things I never would have imagined. In this episode I share some of my own kinks as well as sharing how I evolved into a less judgmental person.
Remember that it is always ok to have likes and dislikes. NOTHING is normal or not normal. We don't have to all like the same things. It is ok to feel negative feelings towards someTHING, but not towards the someONE that enjoys it.
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Monday Jan 16, 2023
Monday Jan 16, 2023
A first Tinder date created a torn vagina, which led to an emergency surgery and BOOM! The name Tera Vee was born!
In this episode I share with you the hilarious, if not slightly embarrassing, story that showcases the origins of my porn name. After years of celibacy, I went on a Tinder date. And then, in a ridiculous turn of events, I experienced a nightmarish complication from a surgery that I had months before. Suddenly, I was completing my Tinder date in the emergency room, waving goodbye to my date as I was wheeled into surgery.
It's no wonder I get so much anxiety on first dates!
Monday Jan 09, 2023
Monday Jan 09, 2023
Welcome to the premier episode! Why the fuck should you even listen to me? I'm here to show you that it is ok to talk about our struggles, and talk about the stuff that might be uncomfortable. I want you to know you have a safe space where we can talk about sex, dating, STIs, mental health, KINKS! This is your safe space to dive into the dirty and realize you are not alone!
*also be sure to catch some of my infamous bloopers at the end too!
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Wednesday Dec 14, 2022
Wednesday Dec 14, 2022
Welcome to the Pretty in Kink podcast trailer. We are going to be exploring the awkward side of sexy, the sweet side of dirty, and the beauty in the mess of that thing that we call life. Let me be your new safe word.
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Meet Your New Safe Word
kink
/kiNgk/
noun
1. a clever unusual way of doing something.
Your discomfort is my kink. Let me be your safe word.
Not what you were expecting, right? Life itself is just one big kink. The problem is, people are too afraid to talk about the things that make them uncomfortable. That's something I have never had a problem with, because I tend to do things a bit differently.
I learned to approach my social media presence from a place of realness. I show my ugly. I show my mess. And when I do? I always get DMs from people that are in those same dark places, but are just too nervous to share it.
I want to take my journey and my experiences to show you that you are not alone. I want to show you the other side of the ugly. I want to become your new safe word.